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THERE WILL EXIST A WELL-INFORMED, WELL-CONSIDERED, AND YET FERVENT PUBLIC CONVICTION THAT THE MOST DEADLY OF ALL POSSIBLE SINS IS THE MUTILATION OF A CHILD’S SPIRIT.
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EFFECTS OF CHILDHOOD ABUSE, PTSD AND SANCTUARY TRAUMA
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THESE SYMTOMS -- some subtly, some dramatically:
IDENTICAL SYMPTOMS HAVE BEEN SEEN IN:
The following is excerpted from the NCPCA publication, "Help for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse" by Pat Brown and Elizabeth D. Jones.
Childhood abuse has lifelong effects. Adults who are survivors of childhood abuse often report a feeling of being ‘stuck’. Their efforts to build and manage their lives often seem fruitless, hollow, or even hopeless. There can be a persistently nagging perception that they are somehow different from others.
Often, these symptoms of childhood abuse can take many forms:
Most of these symptoms are due to the disruption of healthy psychological development. An abusive childhood interferes with the child’s natural movement toward growth and the expansion of his or her experiences.
All children have a right to have their basic needs met by their parents. A consistent sense of welcome, of belonging, and of worth is needed from family and home situations. Loss of sanctuary denies these very basic needs. An adult survivor is left with a deficit of emotional and practical skills for dealing with the ‘grown-up’ world.
Symptoms undisturbed for years may flare if a survivor enters a serious romance, considers marriage, or gives birth to a child. The intimacy and responsibility of a committed relationship may be feared. Caring for a child can arouse memories of unmet needs and lead to sadness and depression. Adult survivors may also fear that they will abuse their own child the way they were abused.It is often difficult for adult survivors to seek help. Consistent, patient and caring efforts are needed by the survivor and those who help with the healing process. It is difficult to recover from childhood abuse alone. Recovery and healing are best accomplished with a combination of strategies. The two most important are obtaining a therapeutic person and using a support group. Adult survivors need to obtain professional help to work through the intense feelings that have been buried for so long. It is critical to find a therapeutic person who is comfortable to be with. In addition to working with a therapeutic wise person, it is important for adult survivors to have a support group. It is extremely healing to hear others tell their stories because it reinforces the idea that the survivor is not alone. There are times when recovery may be particularly difficult, and it is comforting and reinforcing to have several people in addition to a therapeutic wise person to call upon for help. Many adults have made the decision to confront their childhood abuse, despite strong feelings of fear. It may take a while and it may get worse before it gets better, but healing is possible and the rewards are invaluable. Excerpted from the NCPCA publication, "Help for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse" by Pat Brown and Elizabeth D. Jones. A single copy of the publication is available for $2.00. Send your request and check to NCPCA, PO Box 94284, Chicago IL 60690. For quantity prices, contact the NCPCA Catalog Department at (312) 663-3520. RESOURCES: VOICES (Victims Of Incest Can Emerge Survivors) In Action, Inc., PO Box 48309, Chicago IL 60614 (312-327-1500. Incest Survivors Anonymous, PO Box 5613, Long Beach, CA 90805-0613, 310-422-1632. Adults Molested as Children, United, PO Box 952, San Jose, CA 95108, 408-453-7617.
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